I’m done with the buh

For context, here’s the recent drama in order.

1: Spider’s first post

2: buh’s response

3: spider’s response

4: buh’s second response

5: my response

Here we are, at the end of this pointless drama. Or well I’m done with it at least, because this has dragged out long enough. Neither me or spider have wanted it to drag out, but buh refuses to resolve it. I never wanted to choose sides, I refused to because it wouldn’t be fair to either of them. They’re my friends, that’s why.

Even when one has been continuously bad mouthing the other, I didn’t say anything because spider didn’t want to say anything either. I’m explaining things that happened behind the scenes, away from public eye. If you wanna skip to the conclusion, you can

Part 1: buh hates spider because of the fetish bots she made in the past, which is fair. They’re not for most people, the content in them was extreme dead dove. After the hate spider got, she removed some of them(which she did state at the time) and stopped making them because the buh didn’t like them and she wanted to make things right with him. She removed all of them recently, stating why(it’s covered in my previous PSA). Buh said in one of his PSA’s that spider didnt respond to the initial tweet and just privated the bots to avoid accountability, which is not true. She didn’t respond on twitter, but covered the drama in the bio of her latest bot at the time. Again, she stated why she was removing some of the bots at the time. Buh also claims spider is a bad person just because of those bots, which isn’t true. Those bots really don’t reflect her personality, I feel like I know her well enough to say that. Y’all have to take my word for it, or not. I am biased to some degree, but I wouldn’t associate myself with someone who’s really problematic.

Part 2: in DMs buh would vent about his dislike for spider to me, over the course of a week or two he kept talking about it more and escalating the things he was saying. I recognized how irrational this hatred was growing, so I reached out to spider for the first time and talked to her about it. Her response at the time was understanding, no defensiveness, acknowledgement, she wanted to resolve it with buh and make things right. Buh at the time(and since) refused to talk to spider, so I had to act as the middle man. He said the only thing to make things right was for spider to delete her Janitorai account, which she obviously didn’t do. So it ended there.

Part 3: since then, I got to know spider as a person because I was curious if she really was a bad person or what not. She’s really not, honestly. Her and buh have a lot of similarities, actually. Anyways during this time buh kept talking about her to me and saying bad things about her online, I told her about this and she didn’t want to do anything about it because she didn’t want to cause anymore issues. She also was hoping he would eventually get over the hatred, which he didn’t. Through all of this, since before I knew spider. I tried to get get him to move on from the hatred and stop focusing on spider so much, I told him how it was hurting spider’s feelings with all the things he was saying about her numerous times. He didn’t care, really.

Part 4: spider made the recent PSA because b